With four out of every five thoughts we have on a daily basis repeatedly focusing our attention on the bad and undesirable, it’s no wonder so many of us spend our days feeling utterly miserable. So, how do we stop negative thoughts? This simple 4 step method can help.
We each have an unconscious preference in the way we handle challenges in our lives. Some of us don the red cape and focus on fighting back against the issue. We point out all of the challenges, unfairness, and problems and seek to get them stopped or removed. Others put on the green cape and look for positive solutions instead, picking out the strengths, possibilities, and elements that are good and look for ways to build on those.
When something bad happens to us, your belief about the causes of the problem influence your mindset and put you into either an optimistic, empowered state or a pessimistic, disempowered one. As you can imagine, this in turn heavily influences the way you act (or fail to act) in response to the problem.
There are five common thinking traps that once you have fallen into them can be difficult to navigate your way out of. Unless you can identify the nature of the trap and see it for what it is – a distortion in your thinking – you’ll end up stuck in an endless maze of self-perpetuated negativity and unhappiness.
WOAH!!! STOP!!! I looked back from my kayak to see people shouting and waving their arms at the man in the truck. Furiously backing his trailer down the boat ramp, he was headed straight for the girl scouts in kayaks at the bottom waiting patiently for their turn to be pushed off into the river. [...]
Ah, vacation. That magical, carefree time away from the office. An opportunity to relax, unwind, and let the stresses and strains of work melt away. We spend what feels like forever waiting for it to arrive, then in the blink of an eye, it’s gone. Poof. Back to work. Enter the back-to-work blues. A heavy [...]
NERRR! NERRR! NERRR! NERRR! *Obnoxious alarm clock sound* Ugh. Hate it. Being ripped from my sleep by that awful sound. Doesn't matter if I have twinkly bells or a booming foghorn, I hate it just the same. For many of us, getting out of bed is an art form. A carefully designed process of coordinating [...]
If you follow the law of attraction, you'll be familiar with gratitude as a powerful tool to help you manifest the things you want. Specifically, feeling grateful for the things you already have will attract more things into your life to feel grateful for. While this seems pretty simple the problem many of us have [...]