When it comes to achieving great things, setting the goal should be the easy bit. You decide what you want, come up with an awesome action plan, and then get to work. In reality, setting goals is deceptively tricky. In fact, much of our success depends on setting the right goal in the right way. Get this part wrong and you're likely to miss the target. These are four of the major mistakes people make when setting their goals that ultimately lead to their failure.
We each have an unconscious preference in the way we handle challenges in our lives. Some of us don the red cape and focus on fighting back against the issue. We point out all of the challenges, unfairness, and problems and seek to get them stopped or removed. Others put on the green cape and look for positive solutions instead, picking out the strengths, possibilities, and elements that are good and look for ways to build on those.
Like many people feeling stuck in life and unsatisfied with their careers, Tracy had tried to make changes. Yet she kept finding herself back in a classroom, feeling defeated. If teaching brought her so much pain, why did she keep being drawn back? What was preventing her from switching to an entirely different career altogether?
Is intentional personal growth possible in a pandemic? Should we be buckling down under quarantine, feverishly working towards transforming ourselves and achieving goal after goal after goal? Or is the pursuit of personal development on top of coping with covid-19 just too much pressure? Emerging from the pandemic better than you went in doesn't necessarily mean you've achieved a whole bunch of massive goals, but that you have moved forward mindfully in whatever way is most beneficial and meaningful to you.
When something bad happens to us, your belief about the causes of the problem influence your mindset and put you into either an optimistic, empowered state or a pessimistic, disempowered one. As you can imagine, this in turn heavily influences the way you act (or fail to act) in response to the problem.
There are five common thinking traps that once you have fallen into them can be difficult to navigate your way out of. Unless you can identify the nature of the trap and see it for what it is – a distortion in your thinking – you’ll end up stuck in an endless maze of self-perpetuated negativity and unhappiness.