One strategy I have found extremely effective in interrupting a negative thought or behavior pattern is to ask yourself one simple question whenever you engage in a behavior/thought you wish to disrupt.
When something bad happens to us, your belief about the causes of the problem influence your mindset and put you into either an optimistic, empowered state or a pessimistic, disempowered one. As you can imagine, this in turn heavily influences the way you act (or fail to act) in response to the problem.
There are five common thinking traps that once you have fallen into them can be difficult to navigate your way out of. Unless you can identify the nature of the trap and see it for what it is – a distortion in your thinking – you’ll end up stuck in an endless maze of self-perpetuated negativity and unhappiness.
WOAH!!! STOP!!! I looked back from my kayak to see people shouting and waving their arms at the man in the truck. Furiously backing his trailer down the boat ramp, he was headed straight for the girl scouts in kayaks at the bottom waiting patiently for their turn to be pushed off into the river. [...]
Ah, vacation. That magical, carefree time away from the office. An opportunity to relax, unwind, and let the stresses and strains of work melt away. We spend what feels like forever waiting for it to arrive, then in the blink of an eye, it’s gone. Poof. Back to work. Enter the back-to-work blues. A heavy [...]
As busy, stressed-out professionals we all want to increase our well-being and feel better. Yet finding time for self-care can be extremely challenging, and even if you can carve out an hour somewhere, where should we be targeting our well-being efforts? Which areas of our lives should we focus our precious time and energy on [...]
How much of your current situation is truly set in stone? What do you believe about yourself and your ability to make changes? What have others told you that you have accepted as fact? Every day we face challenges with work issues, finances, our health, or from unsupportive family and friends. Or perhaps it's our [...]
Many individuals suffering with depression actually seem pretty happy. They have powerful careers, happy families, active social lives, and seem to have it all pretty well together. Their positive, successful exteriors hide the real truth; that inside they are struggling with a daily battle against fatigue, low mood, frustration, and that self-critical little voice constantly telling them they are no good and dragging them down.